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Too long hair, too dated a style… Freshen up to modernity and lose the bad hair blues
May 14, 2004
Too long hair, too dated a style… Freshen up to modernity and lose the bad hair blues
My sister has finally agreed to cut her hair!!! She is 42 years old and is in need of a style makeover. I would like to focus on her biggest issue: her hair.
She is a natural blond with stick straight hair down to her waist and bangs that are commonly worn curled under and teased. She has worn this style for well over 15 years and has refused to cut it because she thinks that "guys love it".
Anyway, after many people telling her it's out of style, she's given into getting it cut BUT refuses to go any shorter than the bra line. Please give me some ideas of what to do... my sister doesn't look old but she definitely needs something more age appropriate. She's going to see my stylist but we need some ideas before I take her to see him. PLEASE HELP!!! (Olathe, KS)
There are a few concerns here: The dramatically long length, the 80’s sitcom star bangs, the guy thing and, your well-intended desire to ambush her into a up-to-date makeover.
No one past a teenybopper looks good with insanely long hair - weather an old hippie at heart or a Crystal Gale fanatic, there is such a thing as too much.
Like our Rapunzel poster girl pictured, most women with hair as long as a kitchen curtain, have other issues going on whereas they just don’t want to get with the calendar of life and submit themselves to the hands of someone with a scissor who can actually help them look better.
Hair that long usually looks dry, unhealthy and typically is a variety of colors from graying at the roots to a faded version of their original color by their waist. More important, super, super long hair is simply not flattering outside of a Cousin It contest and slicing off a yard or so would create more shape, volume, and movement and therefore be an instant image enhancer.
Those curled under and teased bangs have got to go! They were hideous 20 years ago when they were sort of fashionable and are even more heinous today. Usually you see this hair-don’t when magazines dig up old high school photos of celebrities to show how they looked before they made it. Well, look like you’ve made it- lose the cringe-fringe!
After a certain age, like 6, bangs need to be a little wispy with enough movement to soften your features and flatter ones face, unless you are after a more retro Betty Paige style which usually only works on stage in a rockabilly band.
People need to present themselves in a way that makes them feel self-confident, fantastic, and great about themselves, not solely because they think the opposite sex loves it. Your sister needs to love how she looks, or put her best effort out to try to make the most of what she’s got! She then may attract a more well-rounded guy who loves her for herself and because her hair fits into some fantasy.
Help those in need and donate your long hair
.Locks of Love is a not-for-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children under the age of 18 with medical hair loss.
.Wigs for Kids s a not-for-profit organization providing hair replacement solutions for children affected by hair loss due to chemotherapy, alopecia, burns and other medical conditions.
Now about you: you’ve got a job there. From how you describe your sister, you probably are more than right that she needs a makeover, however, it’s not that simple. First off, it’s her makeover, not yours. Unless she is willing to give you carte blanche to help her with a total image rehaul, you need to take her feelings into consideration. If she’s had that mane for years and years, it may not be so easy for her to hack it all off in one shot. She may need a couple of haircuts to get used to a more sophisticated presence.
Bring along some photos of favorite, realistic hairstyles (our runway hair trends are jam-packed with photos of the top 4 hair looks) to your hair stylist and let your sister and the stylist consult on what style would suit her best right now. A modern hairstyle is the best step to a fresh style beginning, start small and you may work up to big results! Good luck.
--May 14, 2004
Help those in need and donate your long hair
.Locks of Love is a not-for-profit organization that provides hairpieces to financially disadvantaged children under the age of 18 with medical hair loss.
.Wigs for Kids s a not-for-profit organization providing hair replacement solutions for children affected by hair loss due to chemotherapy, alopecia, burns and other medical conditions.
Let me add that the idea of giving a small child a real hair wig is kind of ridiculous. My cousin, an Orthodox Jew who wears wigs daily, had told me that a human hair wig would be way too hot, tight, and itchy for a small child. Synthetic wigs are more comfortable and easier to maintain than human-hair wigs. Hair donations are not needed for any medical reasons, they go to extentions.
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Sunday October 25, 2009 at 03:32am
Kevin McKinney
Firstly, to say that no one past a teenybopper with "insanely" (?) long hair looks good is stupid and untrue. When it comes to length of female hair, the longer the better, I say. Men in general like long hair as an evolutionary trait. We are hardwired to notice very long hair as long as it is in good condition because it shows the female is healthy and takes good care of herself, thus she is likely to be a good partner. Hair on woman's head can never be too long.
Men show overwhelming preference to women with long hair: http://www.rense.com/general38/listen.htm
Secondly, Locks of Love is a scam.
Locks of Love sells 99% of the hair (this one they have admitted by releasing the figures)
- 1% of the hair that goes to alopecia patients is not free, but has to be paid (admitted as well)
- they have millions of dollars from sales and donations (well documented)
- somehow all this money still goes to expenses, not charity work. In other words, they take people's money and hair just so they could keep on taking peoples money and hair, nothing concrete seems to come out of this vicious circle. That, of course, is nonsensical, and only makes sense if that "expenses" money really goes to their own bank accounts.
Thirdly, the inquirer is close minded and silly if she thinks there is an "age appropriate" hair style. She can wear her hair anyway she likes, but who is she to tell others how they should have their hair done? Is she jealous?